by Kellie F French, Ph.D.
Why is it that it’s so easy to help others but not accept help from others? Why do we say no when people offer to help us? Why do we refuse generosity from others?
There are many possible reasons that you may struggle with accepting and asking for help, and Dr. French gives some examples in her article.
She goes on to say that regardless of what is getting in the way of not accepting help from others, you can gain more balance in this area by using positive affirmations and behavior modification techniques.
AFFIRMATIONS
Create a statement or mantra that addresses your obstacles to accepting help. For instance: “I deserve help from others.” Or “I will let go of the process and focus on the outcome.”
Try to say your affirmations daily, particularly when you find yourself in need of help.
BEHAVIOR CHANGES
One of the most effective ways to create change in your life is to behave as though the desired change has already happened. In this case, try to behave like a person who asks for and accepts help easily.
You can:
1) Ask for help a few times a week, with the conscious intention that you are doing so to grow.
2) Accept offered help a few times a week, reminding yourself that you are worthy of help and don’t need to control every aspect of a task.
Life energy flows in all directions, and the kindness that you show to others will flow back in your direction. Inviting and accepting that flow of kindness will help you stay happy and healthy, and keep the flow of life unblocked and unhindered!
And, remember…Feed Your Good Dog, so your good dog always wins!